Naperville Real Estate Blog

The well-being of children is one of the most important concerns about moving to a home in Naperville, Illinois. Maybe you have talked to friends who moved many times while growing up and loved it. However, it is very important not to underestimate the emotional support that your entire family will need. Today, we will discuss elements for a smooth transition to your new real estate in Naperville—or anywhere for that matter.

Even though new residents of Naperville real estate can expect to find excellent schools, wonderful Naperville neighborhoods, communities, recreational leagues, every kind of lesson, and activities galore, parents know that none of this replaces existing heart ties—best friends, relatives, neighbors, teachers, coaches, and teammates. All of these will bloom again in the springtime of life in the new property in Naperville, but the children—and especially the youth in the family—may not understand this during the emotional winter of the relocation.

Some teenagers, especially those who are very involved with friends and activities at their existing school, may become overwhelmed at the idea of moving. Matter of fact, we know of one teen who cried for days at the thought of moving. Another refused to go to the new school, even with counseling, an assigned “buddy”, and the ability to visit old friends on weekends.

Grown children from military families may talk about the excitement of moving and living around the world. Bases are similar and many of the children move frequently. In contrast, the overwhelming number of students in America may have known each other all of their lives and a newcomer may feel quite left out.

Short of reading one of the many books available on the subject, here are some pointers for parents.

• Keep children informed about any moving plans. Avoid sudden announcements.

• Allow time and space for the children to discuss their feelings about the move.

• Show them maps, information packets, and internet sites that will familiarize them with the new community.

• If possible, involve older children in the house hunting experience. Take them to the new city to help find a home, even if your company will not foot the bill.

• Share pictures of possible homes and anything about the new area that may be important to your children.

• Ask your children to make amends in their relationships and show them how they will be able to continue relationships over the miles via e-mail and occasional visits.

Be alert to any changes in a child’s behavior before and after the move. Some children may cry or get aggressive; others paralyze with fear. Sometimes, from one school to another the standards and curriculum vary, making academics more challenging. Watch for the gaps and seek help if needed. Most children, however, are resilient and adaptable. Within a few months, they will find new friends and activities—and so will you.